THE TIGHTS

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I have a love/hate relationship with hosiery.

I dislike the way they look with certain styles. I hate it when they snag on your way into work. I find it intolerable when you arrive home to find them down by your knees. I really don’t like it when people ruin a perfectly good outfit with them. I hate that only a size large in Primark fits me properly. And I despair when people wear coloured ones.

It has to be said, however, that the positives far outweigh the negatives when it comes to these skin-tight accessories.

They are my reliable go-to on a weekday morning in the depths of winter and something I pine for, come May, when the weather is no longer cool enough to pull them on. They are the key to wearing dresses when my legs are too pale to expose to unsuspecting commuters. They are the answer to those ‘what to wear’ dilemmas when I’ve woken up later than I should’ve for work. They make miniskirts wearable and, Christ on a stick, let’s hear it for the options: from fishnets, polka dots and patterned tights to your standard pair of black, 80 deniers (never nude) for those days when you just need a bit of cover from the cold. Tights? I’m not sure what I’d do (or wear) without them.

It might seem strange to love something so trivial but when you hate your legs as abhorrently as me, tights become your best friend, autumn/winter your favourite season and an organised hosiery section more heavenly than a well-stocked gin bar.

Here’s to tights, in all their non-nude forms.

You the bomb.

 

THROW THE GOOD KIND OF SHADE

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Kate Moss is my style icon.

I mean, it’s not like I actually dress like her or anything but everything she wears, I want and she is basically my queen for life.

Anyway, if you, like me, are in love with her too, then why not bid on a pair of her sunglasses to become a) infinitely cooler and b) raise some cash for charity?

Specs Appeal 2016 is now live and they want you to bid on sunglasses that once belonged to the likes of not only Kate Moss but Stephen Fry, Emma Watson and Annie Lennox (amongst others) in order to raise money to help partially sighted children in poverty around the world see again.

Read more about their amazing work here. They can one hundred percent explain it all a lot better than I can.

The one thing I will say? Get bidding. The auction closes on Monday 5th December at 8pm GMT.

Good luck and donate generously.

THE HALLOWEEN

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Ah, it’s that time of year again where we Google what we’re going to be for weeks ahead of the 31st, searching for a costume that is the perfect combination of sexy/scary, before forgetting to buy one altogether and having to concoct a makeshift one from whatever’s left in Wilko, resulting in basically a non-costume. We will then creep off into the night before downing more alcohol than usual, behaving in ways we normally wouldn’t and encountering more dickheads than we thought humanly possible.

It’s painful, why then do I love it so?

I don’t know.

But what I do know is that Halloween costumes that are acceptable for 27-year-olds seem to be very few and far between and the desire to dress up is wearing thin. If you, like me, still don’t have a clue what to go as to that overpriced club night or likely-to-be-quite-messy house party on Saturday, then here are my suggestions to you:

Mexican Sugar Skull

Cultural appropriation arguments aside – for these are desperate times – a Mexican sugar skull costume provides late twenty-somethings with a hint of sophistication to stop you looking like a complete plonker with enough fright to pay homage to the holiday. Age-appropriate indeed.

Scrubs and Blood

Not at all sexy, but if you’re planning on heading out for a hefty supper before the celebrations commence, then you can certainly let it all hang out in these bad boys. Comfort combined with costume effort – basically what being 27 at Halloween is made of.

Cannibal Cavegirl

Done properly, this can actually look pretty great – but you’ve got to go the whole hog: think a full head of back-combed hair, a dress made of animal print fur, bones in your hair and blood around your mouth.

Wednesday Addams

Black dress (preferably with a white collar). Pigtails. Monday-before-coffee-face. Simple.

Slaughtered Beauty Queen

This is definitely one for a more glamorous occasion – although only worth the effort if you have actually been invited to a half-decent Halloween party, such as Jonathon Ross’. Invest in a second-hand cocktail gown, plastic tiara, coat yourself in blood and you’re good to go.

Finally, A Dead… Anything

Basically, if you’re struggling with what to wear, dress up as something… a chef, a baker, a painter and then just, sort of… make yourself look dead.

This Halloween, if you think you’re too old, the truth is, you probably are, but if you feel like pressing on regardless, please promise me this: that you won’t go dressed as a cat or a bunny – or basically anything with whiskers; that you won’t just wear a onesie and call it a costume and that you will refrain from going as a member of ISIS, an aborted baby or a bloody tampon. You’re not funny, you’re an idiot and belong in a rugby club at a university in Devon.

If in doubt this Halloween, just cover yourself in blood and drink too much – it’s worked for me in the past and is probably what we’ll all end up doing anyway.

Have a good one.

THE BEACH BODY

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Lena Dunham once said that she detested being called ‘brave’ by critics of the hit show Girls because they were basically saying that it must’ve taken a lot of courage for her to get naked in front of a camera looking like ‘that’. She said that being brave required you to feel scared, which she didn’t when it came to being naked on camera, so she rejected their praises.

I sort of see what she’s saying.

I just don’t neccessarily agree with it.

To me, being brave isn’t simply doing something you’re scared of, being brave can be doing something that the world is scared of, otherwise known as, ‘breaking the mould’, because the rest of us feel like we can’t. This is the reason I see her as courageous. Not because her figure is horrid – but because those who she’s being compared to by all and sundry are donning that unattainable, softened by lighting, fixed by filters look. And Lena? She’s rocking reality when so many of us find it difficult to do so ourselves.

Her boobs aren’t symmetrical (because whose are?), her vagina isn’t bald (because we all have a choice) and she isn’t a size zero (because she likes to eat). Dunham is brave for baring all on screen because, in a world where it is so easy (and tempting) to alter reality, she has decided to keep it real. For change to happen, people have to be ‘brave’ to ignite it and Dunham is doing it, whether she likes it to admit it or not.

And I think the rest of us could learn from her.

Women have obviously felt a pressure to look a certain way for years now, which doesn’t seem to be about to change, unless you have the financial means to buy out The Daily Mail or Now Magazine and ban body shaming, but something that we can control is what ‘normal’ looks like. I’m not telling you to stop adding filters to your photos or to cut down on the makeup if it makes you feel good but just be brave by being you and you will inspire the rest of womankind to do the same.

During the summer, Ryan and I decided to head to the beach. When we got there, it was hotter than I had expected, so I took off my jeans and sat in the top I was wearing and my not-so-beach-ready pair of too-big, black M&S knickers I had on underneath.

Lovely.

Now, although I am a size 10 – 12, I am very self-conscious of the cellulite that spreads across the backs of my untoned thighs. I drink gallons of water a day, walk everywhere and exercise semi-regularly. I eat salads for lunch, scrub, exfoliate and moisturise but it just won’t shift.

You might be wondering, at this point, how I ended up sitting in my pants then?

Well, I took my jeans off on the beach that day, not because I love the way I look, but because, as I nervously scanned the sand to see who I might be exposing my dimpled bum cheeks to, I noticed a group of girls in bikinis who were enjoying themselves. I envied them for looking so great on the beach, for throwing their heads back and laughing and sitting cross legged looking like poster girls advertising ‘The Perfect Summer in North Somerset’ as if it were no big deal that they had barely any clothes on. I felt jealous that they were enjoying the light breeze that would wave over the beach instead of sitting there sweating in their jeans, like me.

On closer inspection, because I am female and this is what we have sadly been trained to do, I noticed a dimple, a roll, lumps and bumps on these women. And so I should have. These were normal women, enjoying a normal day out with their normal friends: not a bunch of airbrushed models in a glossy magazine.

And that’s when I realised.

It was time to take my jeans off.

The more I thought about it, the more I realised that it wouldn’t have been a completely thoughtless process for any of these women to undress on a packed beach. They were likely to have hated bits of their body, just like I do and would have brought a cover up to hide the parts that they didn’t like. So they, like Dunham, were brave for keeping it real and baring it all without a filter or a svelte size six under their summer dresses.

In truth, their act of bravery on the beach that day led me to be brave.

And when the next lady who set her towel down next to me questioned whether she should take her clothes off and lay in her pants while sipping on a San Pellegrino and tucking into her favourite book? I hope she glanced at my not-so-perfect thighs, thought, ‘fuck it’ and whipped her trousers off, too.

We, as girls, can easily quash the body ideals that are shoved into our faces on a daily basis. In fact, there are many who already are – but we need more people to join the movement (and be brave!) for it to really take off. The fact is, the more we see real body shapes and sizes around us, the less normal unattainable will become and maybe one day we as women can just… be.

Think of it as a sort of ‘Pay it Forward’ for women.

Be brave and the rest will follow.

THE CLOBBER

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From the kick flares I just had to have to the reduced Chloe dress I recently bought for one of a thousand weddings I’ve got lined up this year, it’s official: I am addicted to shopping.

I’ve indulged in the Zara and ASOS sales to the point that I now know the DPD driver’s name and I can identify every click and collect store in the local area. Forget cocktails or partying, it’s clothes – particularly the kind bought for a reduced price or found lying at the bottom of a bargain bin – that have become my new addiction. Just the other day I realised that, in one shopping trip, I had bought four pairs of shoes: two boots (the exact same pair but in different colours), a pair of metallic trainers and some flat gold sandals. As I struggled to mount the train home, convincing myself of their individual worth and working out their potential cost per wear, I realised that I had probably gone too far. I was now justifying my addictive splurges and something had to give.

But then I realised.

Although I have definitely noticed an unquestionable increase in my spending lately and have absolutely fallen a little more in love with sifting through rails for hours on end, I’ve come to realise that my love affair with clothes isn’t actually quite as new as I had first thought. In fact, far from being in our honeymoon phase, high waisted skirts, baggy jumpers and black jeans and I are committed.

And I have to say, our relationship is getting better with age.

When I was younger, I would slip on any pair of adult shoes I could lay my tiny hands on. Heel or no heel. A delight to the eyes or even a vulgar wedge: I would claim them as my own and clomp around the house, leaving behind my scuffed navy Start-Rites and relishing in my new and improved grown up footwear.

As I got older, like most teenagers, I experimented with style. I went through a – not quite so Kate Moss in the 90s – grunge look, which can only be described as gross yet distinctly unforgettable. I had a bad fringe. I had a good fringe. I really loved my blue, flowery clogs. I dabbled in vintage and retro, trekking over to Brick Lane each Thursday to spend my pennies on tat that I thought was cool, basically because I had found it on a rail at Rokit. I was actually so obsessed with preloved for a while that when I fell for a pair of red ankles boots in a size 7 (two sizes too big for me and, of course, being vintage, they didn’t have them in any other sizes) I bought them anyway. And, in a typically teenage bout of stubborness, I wore them until the soles wore through, gripping my toes as I walked.

Then came university.

As probably the poorest student in Exeter (which really wasn’t that hard), I wasn’t able to splash out on the clothes that I actually wanted to wear, so I played it safe and (at the very least) tried to blend in. So, baffled by everyone’s desire to wear heels and a dress to clubs that cost no more than a quid to enter, but not wanting to break the mould, I found myself dressing up in sky highs and body con just to impress. During these years, between the ages of 19 and 22, I was at my least confident. I would regularly refuse to go out because I had nothing to wear. I would wail in front of my full length mirror, leaving behind a room that looked as though it had been burgled 5 times over as I sifted through everything I owned and, with a wardrobe bursting to capacity and draws stuffed to the brim, I couldn’t understand why. But it was all because I was buying and collecting clothes that I thought I should wear as opposed to what I wanted to wear.

And then I graduated.

Returning to London is where I regained a sense of self, re-ignited my long-lost city style and remembered that wearing trainers was okay. Not only was I far more comfortable on a Friday night, I was actually more at ease in my own skin because I was decorating my body the way I wanted to. And that’s something I think people forget when critiquing the fashion industry: it might be a billion dollar, size zero heralding power house, but wearing the clothes that you love and finding your own style? So underrated when it comes to positive body image and confidence.

These days, I quite literally wear what I want. The majority of the time you’ll find me in jeans and a t shirt. If it’s cold, I’ll have a fur coat on. I mix old and new. (A little) designer and lots of high street thrown in with some (but not enough) second hand steals. I still nab clothes from mum’s wardrobe when she’s not looking and I continue to own too many pairs of shoes. But for all this dedication to the cause, I’ve realised that whenever people ask me what I’m into, it’s as if I’m on autopilot: writing, reading, music. That’s all I ever say. But, in actual fact, fashion is a huge part of who I am (and probably of who you are) today. Fashion can transcend time, but it can also document it. One item of clothing can take you back to a different era and a pair of heels can remind you of an evening spent with friends you might have otherwise forgotten.

I enjoy shopping, styling, rummaging. I love putting pieces together that make my boyfriend crumple his face so hard I think he might stay like that should the wind change. But I also get a kick out of him being surprised by pieces I’ve pulled together. I love sharing clothes, swapping clothes and talking about clothes. I appreciate form, shape and cuts and I love how finding the perfect fit makes you feel a million bucks (excuse the cliché).

I’m not saying I’m Henry fucking Holland, nor am I saying that you’ll see me enrolling for CSM in September, but I think it’s time I accepted the fact that one of my greatest passions (if you will) is fashion.

It’s an art form, a confidence builder and a chance to express yourself.

And there ain’t nothin’ wrong with that.