Wouldn’t be a true Brit if I didn’t mention the weather each week, would I? But hot damn, it really did get chilly, didn’t it? I’m spending the day eating a roast dinner and planning my best friend’s hen do. Pretty perfect, if I do say so myself. If you’re tucked up under a duvet, looking to sink your teeth into some good reads, here are my top picks from the past 7 days, bundled into one.
When I read that a man was found not guilty of raping his wife because he ‘didn’t know he needed consent’, it made my blood boil. In case it needs to be made abundantly clear: anything other than yes means no. Fact.
A funny yet truth speaking article about gender roles and threesomes.
I talked this week about how important a 9-5 can be when it comes to matters of the mind. Of course, it’s all subjective, with some unable to get themselves into work, but if you can, then it might just save you.
When I was younger, I knew a girl who used to self-harm. It really scared me when she first showed me, but I didn’t think to question why she might be doing it. I, in all honesty, assumed it was for attention. Oh, the mind of a 13-year-old. So tragic that so many young women are doing it.
Cheating has been a part of my life since I was a teenager. It’s nothing new. I think most people would say the same, so why can’t we talk about it?
I don’t like the notion that teaching little ones about consent is ‘radical’. I think it’s more ‘crucial’ if you ask me.
Female orgasms are a thing of fairytales for some women. Or perhaps most women, judging by these stats.
Hallelujah! The gods have finally realised we millennials are poor af and have offered up a discount card for rail travel. I only get to enjoy a year of use, though. Sob.
Another week, another mention of Megan, my blogger of the moment. If you’re struggling to transition your wardrobe, read her advice. She’s a pro.
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday and have a good week, everyone!
In a world where it’s nigh on impossible to know which day of the week it is or remember a friend’s birthday without the support of our smartphones, it makes perfect sense to reach for our little pocket computer when it comes to our birth control, too.
As you well know, there are tons of different forms of contraception available on the market. From those you get surgically inserted to others you need to pull out the bedside table just before knocking boots. The benefit of the former, of course, is that you don’t need to remember to do or take anything. However, an IUD or implant isn’t for everyone and you might have opted for the pill, which is where a reminder app might come in handy.
Lady Pill Reminder is a great app if you don’t have time to remember to take your pill. It’ll simply buzz at you when it’s time, you take the tab and you’re protected for another day. Simple. It works with all different types of birth control pills, and you can even enter the number you have in each packet and it’ll buzz when you’re about to run out. It’s very easy to use, and you can even change the icon to something discreet if you’re of a particularly private disposition – although remember, ladies: protecting yourself ain’t nothin’ to be ashamed of.
If you happen to take other medications in addition to your pill, it’s going to be even harder to remember when and what to take each day. MyTherapy (iOS/Android) is a little more comprehensive and can help with that. Its database has pretty much every medication under the sun, so if you have a more complicated pill-popping regime than others, it can be a real life-saver. It tracks activities and symptoms too, which you can bundle together in a report to keep for yourself or show to your doctor if something isn’t sitting quite right.
Of course, birth control isn’t everyone’s bag these days, with some trying to get pregnant (eek! When did this happen?!) which is where Natural Cycles can be useful. It’s an app that uses your temperature to determine the days you are and aren’t fertile so you know when the best time to hop into bed is. I wouldn’t rate it as a method of birth control on its own, as it seems a tad risky, something I spoke about a few weeks ago, but of course, that’s up to you.
Choosing the right contraception is a very personal decision and can take years to find one to suit your body and lifestyle. If you do decide the pill is the method for you, though, why not allow technology to take care of the remembering, so you can focus on all the other, more exciting aspects of your life instead? Such as where your next margarita is going to come from?
Birth control doesn’t have to be a pain in the butt. You just have to do your research and figure out what works best for you.
This is a contributed post
There’s a lot to be said for the impact a 9-5 can have on your mental health.
In this instance, although not always the case, I’ll be talking about the positives.
Allow me to digress.
Mindfulness burst onto the scene a couple of years ago. Everyone bulk bought mandala colouring books, invested in meditation guides and began to slow down the pace as the world was just starting to speed up. It was a popular movement with busy millennials, struggling to switch off, and rightly so. I still practise it on the daily, so I don’t disagree with the fact we could all do with taking a break, practising our breathing and finding more time to come offline, but I’m also a firm believer that a stimulating job with a steady income can also provide you with peace of mind like no other. Believe it or not, doing more can actually be good for us.
I know this isn’t the same for everyone and it might be an unpopular assertion with many who are hovering around a similar age bracket to me (the 25-34s) but hear me out.
Twice since university, I have found myself unemployed. Twice in my life my mental health has suffered.
You guessed it. The times I’ve felt my most anxious or depressed is when I’ve had no job to turn up to. No work colleagues. No steady income. No direction. No vision of the future. My self-esteem suffered, meaning my confidence took a knock, which meant I didn’t want to go out, which meant I didn’t see my friends, which led to me feeling incredibly low, alone and isolated. Not to mention confused, lost and a little out of focus.
For me (and I know this doesn’t apply to everyone, with some finding work a real struggle and at times impossible) having something to do each day keeps me sane. I might not have loved every job I’ve had, and it’s easy to say now I am head over heels for the one I have, but even when I didn’t love my 9-5, it still forced me up and out each day, provided me with the cash flow to allow me to do the things I love and provided the boost to my self-esteem I so quickly lost when sat in my pyjamas, applying for jobs, hiding from the world. A job takes the attention away from you and your own thoughts and having to get up, get dressed, smile and function can be the difference between a poorly mind and a sound one.
Of course, there are times where the job is the problem. You can have a boss who’s a bit of a shit and you might not click with your coworkers. The tasks themselves might be too much to handle and the pressure can be all consuming, but if you feel as though your mental health is suffering, try not to jump straight to slowing down the pace without closing your ears off from all the mindfulness chat to consider whether it could, in fact, be the opposite. You might find you have too much time on your hands, which can be just as damaging as having too little.
Whether it’s freelance work, a classic 9-5 set up, or something with an entirely different work pattern, spend time finding a job that works for you because I’m fairly certain it can be the key to keeping you and your brain cells on the straight and narrow.
Just some food for thought.